Really, this entire journey has been fraught with surprises and unexpected twists and turns. In the very beginning, I was nervous but I had faith that I would come out of surgery with no complications. I was told that while it took longer than expected, part of that was because the holes where they screwed a vice onto my head wouldn’t stop bleeding so they ended up having to staple them and I took a while to wake up from the anesthesia.
I tried as much as I could to follow doctor orders, go to appointments, physical therapy, and after 6 months my neurosurgeon was concerned about my memory and referred me to the brain center in town.
As time has “progressed” around me, everything has just been a blur. In my head all I see is a timelapse video of me standing still as the world whooshes around me, but my body and mind are deteriorating at the speed of everything around me. Here I am in 2016 in my head living in 2018 and while it seems I do so little, I feel like my mind is running all day to catch up to a world that is constantly changing and I am changing but I don’t really understand what is happening to me. We don’t know why this is happening.
The important thing is that I keep discovering things about myself, good and bad. I wrote a book! Who would have ever thought. It’s like my blog on steroids. I didn’t think that was anything I would ever do. I plan to keep my people —I was probably about to lay some earth shattering lines of wisdom but I seem to have blanked out.
That is the problem.
I assume the point I was going toward is that life is unexpected and while I don’t remember much anymore, I am thankful that I have found that I am adept at translating my experience into written words that see to get more flowery as time goes on. While I feel out of place in time and in the wrong body, I have not stopped. I am trying to pull the pieces of me that are left together, and gather new pieces that I have found and form a new Michelle.
This Michelle is learning how to deal with mental inconsistencies so that she can stand up and speak out for those who have no voice. This Michelle is learning to deal with the medical system while batting memory loss, constant headache and nausea, and a trick knee. This Michelle is learning what to ask for at doctor appointments and ALWAYS having a rational reason for getting things accomplished. This Michelle puts everything in her phone or it isn’t happening.
The best part is, most of the time, I do not remember that I have memory loss, so I have to really try to have someone with me to remind me to put it in the phone. It is my battle to fight and I am on it.
I wish I could say that I am consistently positive, but there are days that I really want to give up and stop the fight. The question that stops me is, “what will I do then?” If I give up and I don’t happen to get disability, what do I do then? However, right now I am telling myself that everytime we clear a battlefield we have made room for others to come. If I cannot be “fixed” then I will use the energy and resources I have to find a cure for Chiari Malformation and to help patients who receive head or spine injuries get promptly and thoroughly examined and imaged and followed up on in a year to help catch decline before it is too late to halt. I assume that means that major changes would have to take place, however, I have nothing to lose if my memory is gone, so I will fight my way to Capitol Hill if that is what it takes.
I will endure the setbacks, the pain, the frustration, and everything that frustrates me in order to lay the foundation for better healthcare. I have recently discovered that I am losing control of my left vocal fold. I cannot sing very well anymore. My most precious gift is withering away. I will gladly give it if it means that I will help someone keep their ability to draw or dance. I refuse to let my suffering be in vain. I believe I was born with purpose, I have simply been collecting the tools I need to carry out my mission.
What’s your purpose?